10 Inevitable Hardships Most Women Will Experience In Her Twenties


I’m in my 20’s and I must say its been the weirdest most profound era of my life thus far. It’s a time of my life where I feel like I'm on a ticking clock to make a decision as to how i wish to spend the rest of my life.

In our 20’s I feel most of us women can relate to being bombarded by these questions: Will we or will we not have children? Will we continue education? Pursue a career? Or all of the above? Those are a lot of very important and psychologically-loaded decisions that seem very permanent. And the stress can be overwhelming.

There are also A LOT of other growing pains you won’t be able to avoid during what i’d like to call the “uncertainty and confusion” stage. Just remember that you’re not alone. These are some inevitable hardships that most women will experience in your twenties:

  1. Anxiety

    This one might not come as a surprise, but everyone needs the occasional reminder that anxiety is a big deal, and can really impact your life. If it pops up in your 20s, it likely has to do with the pressures of adult life. Having to work, pay bills, handle relationships, and take care of yourself can lead to anxiety.

  2. You might hit a point in your life where you don’t know what to do. 

    Let’s be honest, there’s more than a few of us out here who have no clue what we’re going to end up doing with our lives. We want to make an impact in the world, but we don’t know what we want to do, who we want to be, or how we’re gonna go about making that impact.

  3. Thinking education and talent are enough to become successful. 

    High intelligence, natural talent, and degrees from elite universities are all good things to have, but they in no way guarantee that you will land a great job — and mean nothing when not paired with hard work and dedication. 

  4. Equating happiness with money. 

    A fat paycheck can certainly make you happier, but there's plenty more to success than that. You're setting yourself up for years of regret if you pursue a paycheck rather than your passion. 

  5. Decisions about your education, career, and life will be made…and made again.

    One minute you’re enrolled in classes at a university and the next you find yourself taking a year off to figure your life out. There’s never really a one size fits all approach when it comes to making decisions during this time. There’s always a, “Oh! I want to be Doctor” followed by a, “I think I’m gonna make jewelry and sell them for a living”.

  6. The pressure from your parents & their friends and other relatives will be REAL. 

    “So what exactly are you doing with your life?”

    “Are you saving?”

    “You should just come back home and get a job”

  7. People will still think you’re too young to have real-life issues.

    Even when you’re older, people older than you will always think that they’re much wiser than you are and that your problems aren’t real.

  8. Every few years, you won’t recognize yourself.

    Think about who you were in 2014, and who you are now in 2019. As you go through these inevitable experiences, your perspectives, appearance, and mindset will change.

  9. Obsessing too much about how you look.

    It’s not our fault — we have been culturally conditioned to obsess about our appearance in a constant search for perfection. So it’s not an easy task to immediately “turn it off.” 

  10.  Friendships will get weird, deteriorate, or fail.

    As harsh as that may sound, it isn’t always a bad thing. As you travel through your personal journey as a 20-something, your friends will be trucking on their own as well. You may go months without speaking, have disagreements, or just simply disconnect organically.